If you really want something to happen in life, you have to make it happen. You have to make a plan to achieve your goal or dream. If it really matters to you, you think about how and then take the actions to make it a reality. I call that "getting on your grind".
At the tender age of ten, my older cousins and their friends looked out for me. I would get all over the hood following behind them. One of the things I remember most was that being in the hood never stopped us from thinking big. Also, as young people we never thought things were bigger than us. If we wanted a basketball court, we made one. It started with a single crate and backboard, made from ply wood snatched from a construction site discard pile. When we brought it back the next summer it went full court. Then the next summer it had a free throw line and soon team logos. We had a three on three league with no adult supervision. All on our own. The oldest of us was no older than fifteen, 15!
As we get older things seem to take so much time, and money. Always the money! When did watching a sports game with friends become a $50 bill? Not to mention the time away from personal responsibilities. Once you start a family it's like you have no time. The key word though is 'like'. In truth we have time. What we lack is a schedule and true passion.
I need to ask all of you to get on your grind.
Make a schedule for yourself. Know when and where you need to be each day to accomplish your goals. Write your goals each day. Make it your first accomplishment of every morning. Doing little things might seem like nothing but at the end of the day it's the phone call you made, the visit you kept, the application you submitted that come together and equal achievement and success.
It's not a 'just you' thing when you get frustrated and feel the overwhelming desire to just 'hate people' in general. Everyone that breathes has moments like that. Just be sure they are moments and not the regular. When you think about it there are always a few people; even during your most dark moments; that you care for. Then there is the fact that you are a person to, which means you annoy the hell out of someone as well.
None of us are perfect, but we can pursue perfection. We can all strive for mastery, but we should always be students. It's the journey that makes us better. The goals is just us deciding which path to follow along the way. Once you meet a goal you have to decide what's next.
I graduated from high school
I experienced higher education and got certified as a computer technician
I moved out of my parents home and started a family if my own
Right now my goals are:
Be a good husband
Be a better parent
Be a leader in my family
Be a true businessman
It means I work hard everyday to find resources for my personal projects
It means I address the tough topics with my wife and kids
It means I have to initiate connecting with my people
If it sounds light, give it a try.
If it sounds heavy, I'm here to be an example and cheer you on.
If it sounds unreal, I pray you wake up…. Cause this is life.